Most of us are never the target of an obsessive crush and most of us never actually have an obsessive crush on someone. That's not to say that crushes are uncommon, but the one's that can be considered trully obsessive are relatively rare and thank goodness for that! What qualities distinguish a garden variety crush from an obsessive crush, you might ask. Well, just consider what it means to be obsessive. There is an inability to concentrate on anything other than the subject of the crush. There is intense desire which might cause someone to go to great lengths to connect with the target of the crush and there is a disconnect with reality which keeps the person suffering from the crush from realistically assessing the situation so as to avoid behaving inappropriately. The extreme emotionality makes it impossible to think straight and that results in lots of problems potentially.